Yesterdaymorning after a struggle of almost two years my mother in law finally found peace. She fought hard and long, but in the end the cancer won. On the one hand there is the relief that it is over, that she can rest now, but on the other hand there is the all consuming sense of loss.
We’ve known this moment was coming for a while now, but no matter how long you prepare for something like this to happen; it is still a shock. A shock knowing she will never be around again, never laugh, never cry, never just be there.
I’ve known her for 20 years and we have our shares of ups and downs, especially in the beginning when we first met, but after the first few years we got along just fine. We shared a passion for cooking and for creative workshops and we also – ofcourse – shared the love of her son.
I know some of you were aware that she was seriously ill and I wanted to share why I may be a little bit absent at the moment. The irony of the matter is also that I was supposed to leave with a friend for a trip to Japan on the 6th, arriving in Japan on the 7th. Because of the situation after the earthquake we had to cancel our trip.
If I hadn’t I would have not been here right now. I would have landed in Japan and would have had to fly back instantly. It’s at times like this that I do wonder if things happen for a reason. Whatever the case, I am glad I am here right now to support the family and to grief together.
So dear Edith, I hope you have found your peace now. We’ve loved you dearly and will miss you even more.
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I’m so sorry, Simone, all my sympathy for you both.
I’m so sorry for your loss. All my condolences to you and your family.
Hugs,
Rosa
I’m so sorry for your loss.
But now she have found peace and you meet her again in heaven. Hugs Jenni <3
Its sad when a person is going away forever. My Grandpa dies also because of cancer and it was so hard to watch at him and see that is something going on
(and Sorry for my bad english)
Thinking of you and your family. Sorry for your loss.
Dear Simone, I am so sorry for your loss and I know healing will happen in time. Yes, I do believe there is a higher power that plans our lives!!
Sorry to read this. Take care Simone. One day at a time.
I’m so sorry, Simone!
Simonem I’m very sorry for your family’s loss. My condolences go out to your husband.
My sincere condolences to you and your husband, Simone. I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my maternal grandmother in February, and even though she was very old and mostly unaware of her surroundings in the last years, it was very sad to let her go. I hope you and your family support each other through this difficult time.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in-law a week before Christmas, 2010. It is very hard.
Christine
This is such a lovely picture to dedicate to your Mother in law. Best wishes to your family. I found your lovely site on BC.
Sad to hear about the demise. I could relate the same for my father who could not concur cancer. Hope your family comes out of this grief soon. Take care.
Thanks everyone for your warm wishes. It means a lot to me!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for strength in the upcoming weeks as you adjust and adapt to this “new” life.
I am so sorry for your loss, Simone! We all will be thinking of you & your husband in these difficult times!
What a great tribute to her through your lovely blog! Aaaaah!
So sorry about your loss.
Sorry to hear of your loss. You seriously have to wonder about a divine order. I lost my Mother In Law a few years ago. An angel of a woman. I miss her terribly. Feel I could cry now as I relate to you. Peace and grace to you.
My deep condolences for your loss. May you and your husband stay strong. Edith’s spirit will always be with you.
I’m so sorry for you loss Simone. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. xoxo
I am sorry about your lose. You are in my thoughts.
Dear Simone,
I am really sorry for your loss. It is always hard when loved ones are not around anymore. My thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry. i missed this post and that is why I had asked you in twitter. One can never be ready for a loss. and cancer is something i truly dread, having lost my mom within 3 months time when she was just 52. 10 years later, it still does not seem real. May your MIL rest in peace now, being in a better place and away from the pain. My condolences to you and your family.
It is so hard to lose a loved one. You are honoring her memory with loveliness.